Issues About my Life.

I considered myself as a very introverted person. When people think of me, they wrongfully assume that I don’t like people; I don’t show interest in any activities, I’m dull and passive etc. In my childhood and teenage years, both in school and off school, sometimes at home, I was bullied, looked down on, humiliated, treated unfairly and rejected because of their wrong perception about my personality. It became so bad that I fell into depression in which had a negative effect both on my academics and my physical stature. Even my mother seeked spiritual helps and advices on my situation because of the love she has for me, but i feel it had little or no effect. There were other introverted colleagues experiencing the same situation but somehow, they were able to blend in. some, because of the way they were brought up in their family, some are in-between and also their inherited physical stature favoured them. They were the ones who understood my situations. I befriended them and they helped me scaled through to university level but the damage had already been done. These negative situations led me to asociality, (Lack of motivation to engage in social interaction) which also led to forms of personality disorder. I was unable to socialize well in university both in my home country and abroad. Most times when i communicate with someone, i tend to go off point, not because i don't know what i am saying but its because i have so much to say that is bottled up inside and i just put everything out there in one conversation ignoring if its the right time to say it or not just because i don't want to let the opportunity pass me by. I went through years of intense prayer and deliverance but it doesn’t seem to solve my asociality issues. This is having negative effects on my career and future.

I can’t let it go on for the rest of my life as far as I concern, so I’m taking matters to my own hands, seeking other alternatives, mostly psychological rehabilitation. For years I came across human temperaments and till now, I didn’t take it seriously. Human temperament is divided into two groups, the introverts (Quiet, like privacy) and the extroverts (Outgoing, prefer public interaction). People who are very introverted are prone to symptoms of asociality simply because of genetic factor of having an extremely introverted personality coupled with how they are mistreated in their youths, wrongfully brought up in their childhood, and so on. The thing about introverted people is that they also like being around people. Unlike extroverts, the introverts enjoy having a small group of friends to whom they are particularly close to. They prefer deep, long-lasting relationship marked by a great deal of closeness and intimacy.

Introverted personality is a very sensitive personality. The introverts can become easily overwhelmed to busy and harsh environment and social situations while extroverts tends to strive in the same situations. According to the researchers, introverts are easily distracted than extroverts, and Introverts also carry more grudges than extroverts when they get offended even though, they are slower to anger. These are why introverts tend to prefer a quieter, organized and less intense situation.

My goal is to use that to understand myself and my situations and use it to tackle them head-on then, I came across possible solutions; Social Skill Training (SST) which is an effective technique aimed towards anyone with difficulty relating to others. Metacognitive Interpersonal Therapy (MIT) which is a method of treating and improving the social skills of people with personality disorders that are associated with asociality. Finally, Coping Mechanism:- A method used to cope with asocial behaviors of many individuals especially those with avoidant personality disorder by developing an inner world of fantasy and imagination to entertain themselves when feeling rejected by peers. Asocial people may frequently imagine themselves in situations where they are accepted by others and have succeeded in many activities. This could help them have positive mindset no matter how bad the situation may be.